Some of my favourite bloggers have been blogging for a decade. Me, it’s just two years. Today.
Later today we will have a little celebration with the family – Nick, Esme, George, Gus, and Kit – who help me with the blog in so many ways.
- some of them subscribe and read it most days (some of them can’t read yet, although they can use a computer to watch videos about Spiderman, bin trucks and motor bikes)
- one of them comments, occasionally and briefly, usually witheringly but also accurately. (She does have her hands full with her job, kids and commitments)
- my husband often comments, but never in writing. He will make an announcement about the spelling or grammar, or say what I could or should have included in the post. He sometimes says “liked the blog today”.
- my husband’s real talent is in taking photographs when he really, really doesn’t want to. I love him for that. We live in a small underground flat. There is not much sunshine even in summer, so I prefer to get pictures of my outfits outside. On occasion he comes up to the street, first thing in the morning, in his dressing gown to take pictures. That is very brave as we have a lot of tourists, street sweepers and parking meter men wandering around at all hours. Nick is the absolute master of a quick pic. I get no more than one minute to “pose”, such as it is, and he mindlessly snaps until he hands the phone back to me and retreats indoors. New technology being what it is the pictures are often of pretty good quality despite the inauspicious conditions.(I think I should offer to take up his trousers a bit, don’t you?)
- my dear sons will take pictures too if they are around. They have a little more patience than Nick, and often try something a bit arty like bending down and shooting upwards. Nick can’t do this. Don’t know if it is a lack of imagination, training or his knees.
- the little kids don’t really help much. They dislike being photographed and they don’t like me to do anything that distracts from food, stories or watching videos of Spiderman etc. Luckily their choice in viewing is so tedious that I can think of other things, but usually when I have finished babysitting I am pooped and ready for bed myself.
- In summary I just want to thank my great family whom I love very much – they support and sustain me with love, resources, jokes (often at my expense), ideas, connections, and encouragement. We invariably eat one meal together, at least, each week and it is so important to me that we can depend on each other. As a family we are facing a tragedy at the moment and we are all working hard at looking after each other. At the end of the day love is the only thing that counts.
- I need to mention my dear stepson Ben, who builds websites, and more, for a living. He created this Fabrickated website a year ago. If I ever get an issue his troubleshooting is instant. So this is the end of the first year of my self hosted site and it has gone well. If you are thinking of breaking free yourself I would say there are some downsides. I can no longer see where everyone lives on a little interactive map – I used to enjoy that. I more or less knew the two or three people reading in Brazil (Hi Mauricio, Hi Sandra), Romania (Hi Katerina) and Latvia (Hello Galina), but now readers, unless they comment, are more anonymous
So on to you, my dear, dear, readers. When I started this I had no idea how close I would become to you. I do worry a bit that many are just “being nice” when they routinely say kind and generous things about my sewing efforts. I doubt my own abilities. While I am a fairly confident person, with dressmaking I often feel that I am ‘faking it” – making it up as I go along. I doubt myself and am very self critical. So I don’t really believe the nice stuff. But I do appreciate it. I know it is the done thing to say nice things and the round of applause one gets is sometimes for effort and trying rather than for achieving. I have experienced the amazing generosity of others that astounds me again, and again. Stephanie you stand out as being kind, engaged and interesting. I love your blog and I so look forward to meeting you one day. The help I have received is so much better than book advice. It is coming from people – like Jay, Mrs Mole, Linde, Annie, Bunny and Pia, who actually do the same sort of thing as me. Pia loves the internet as it helps you find the small sub-set of people you really want to know. I agree.
The blog has also allowed me to meet, in real life, all sorts of amazing women. Marianna from Sew2Pro, Nat from Made-in-Home, Megan from Pigeon Wishes and recently Pia from The Overflowing Stash; Mary Funt from New York; Gail, Anne and Lesley from Australia, and a fair few from the London and Sussex blog scene who I hope to get to know better over time. This rich seam of happy, beautiful people has enhanced my social life and made the world feel safer and smaller.
Sometimes I have had negative and critical comments. I decided not to censor them. I do actually believe rather strongly in free speech and allowing people to have their say.
This year I went down from daily blogs to four a week – Monday, Wednesday, Friday and Saturday. And this is enough – maybe too much for readers. My life is busy so I may reduce again, but I will keep writing for myself. I am so grateful that so many read what I write and especially for those who leave a comment.