Guest blog – Maame-Yaa Bempah

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I recently posted about natural grey hair, and my own decision to stop bleaching and colouring my hair. I got a great reaction from my friend Michala who tweeted that like grey hair, “Afro hair just needs to be embraced for its own beauty”. Funnily enough it was Maame-Yaa Bempah, who first got me thinking about natural hair. Over a nice lunch in the Notting Hill Housing canteen she mentioned that she had once attended a lecture about natural African hair and had been letting her hair be itself ever since.  I asked her write a guest blog and she sent me some lovely photos and personal reflections.

I can only give my own perspective. I am a black woman, part of a family that originates in Ghana, West Africa. Obviously my natural hair type is Afro, although it hasn’t always appeared that way at first glance. Here I am in the traditional Kente woven cloth from Ghana, with my hair in curly twists.

Curly Twists and Ghanian dress
Curly Twists

I have worn my hair in a wide range of styles. Below is a style known as “relaxed” which sounds kind of gentle and laid back, but it is a sort of reverse perm. The hair is permanently straightened using harsh chemicals, and the resulting de kinked hair doesn’t really swish like naturally straight hair, and has a tendency to frizz when it meets water.

african woman with relaxed hair
Relaxed

In the next photograph I have straight styled twists.  This hair style took about five hours to create, and involves integrating artificial kinky Afro-style hair to increase the length and volume. This is my favourite and style of the moment, although I am always mindful to take care of my edges (i.e. my hairline)!

Straight Styled Twists
Straight Styled Twists

And here I am with straight plaits, or braids as they are known in the USA. Both the twists and the braids are developments of traditional African styles but commonly include additional artificial hair, in this case in a different, lighter brown, colour. Both the plaited and twisted styles here display versatile African inspired designs without doing any fundamental damage.

African woman with straight plaits
Straight Plaits

One style I have never wanted to countenance is a straight weave. This is where straight hair (actually taken from a lady who looks nothing like me) is attached to chemically straightened Afro hair. The additional hair is attached with glue, heat or weaving giving an effect of long, straight hair. For me personally, the idea of projecting a style which would never naturally grow from my own head, seems bizarre and to my mind produces an unnatural look. Many Black women do enjoy having straight hair through weaves, and straightened hair is ubiquitous. Michelle Obama, for example, sports straightened hair. She looks glossy and well turned out but conforms to the American norm.

Mrs O
Mrs O

By the time I was 27 I had been bending, twisting, heating, shaping, and treating my hair with powerful chemicals for at least a decade, and had had enough. I eventually went for the Big Chop, vowing never to use anything unnatural on my hair ever again. One day I had limp, straight, relaxed shoulder length hair. The next I had a glorious, bouncy and short teeny-weeny afro (colloquially known as a TWA).  It was probably the most liberating decision I had ever taken in my life!

Tiny weany Afro the TWA
“TWA” – Teeny-Weeny Afro

Over the last five years I have studied how to nurture my natural Afro hair.

I enjoy my hair most when it looks naturally African.  Dark, proud and unique.  In Ghana, plaiting and cornrows are one of the traditional ways we style our hair, although the Western influence has meant that large numbers of women also straighten and weave their hair.  Consciously deciding to wear my hair as nature intended gives me a great sense of confidence, inner joy and I feel at ease with myself.  I no longer worry about what will happen when my hair is exposed to the many elements the British weather throws at us. Nowadays going for a swim or a work out is just something I do when I fancy it. It is no longer something of a military operation!

I watched an interview some time ago in which Chimamanda Ngochi Adichie mentioned that, unintentionally, black women’s hair is always political.  I agree.  The way an individual Black woman wears her hair generates a perception and/or discussion in a way that no other women’s hair does.  When I had my TWA, I used to receive almost daily comments (mostly positive) on some aspect of it, both from friends and strangers, black and white, which was an interesting experience.

I find that the best way to keep Afro hair strong and healthy is to shy away from any kind of chemical products, and to focus on natural products like shea butter, coconut oil and everyday items such as egg or avocado to create a deep conditioner at home.  As Afro hair is quite brittle, applying any kind of laboratory generated emollient, and/or direct heat such as straighteners or blowdrying, is a fast route to breakage (similar to split ends, only worse as the hair often breaks off completely).

Wishing everybody the best of luck on their hair journeys, I’m enjoying the calm that is now mine.

Natural Afro
Natural Afro

MYB has glorious glossy hair that is soft and pliable to touch. Thank you for sharing this personal story Maame-Yaa.

6 Responses

  1. Tim Morton

    Great article, thank you, reminded me of recent #FromOurOwnCorrespondent on why African women wear goats on their head. The hair market in china is so big, some of it is goats hair, the blends are then sold to African traders who import it.

  2. Fantastic and fascinating post. Thank you for sharing! You look stunning with your natural hair. I heard an excellent documentary that discussed the political aspects of black women’s hair a while ago on CBC radio (I think on the Ideas program) but unfortunately I can’t find the podcast to link to.

  3. well, she is on to something! Her natural hair looks divine !
    wonderful post as always.

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  5. Brenda Marks

    Thank you for making a space for this dialogue. One comment that was particularly impactful to me is that people felt free to comment on Maame-Yaa Bempah’s TWA. I’m glad the comments were positive, but I also think that the comments in and of themselves were likely too invasive.

    • This is such a difficult area Brenda. We like positive comments about our appearance, unless it is unwelcome. Sometimes we want honesty, but not if it hurts. I find comments from my nearest and dearest helpful, but sometimes it makes me more conservative than I want to be. And then there is the issue of sexism, racism, classism etc, which adds to the toxic brew. Arrgh. On my blog I comment on style, appearance, and what makes people look and feel good. But I always willing to accept a challenge when I get it wrong.

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